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I once had a meltdown because I saw that someone I was seeing (read: had gone on five sầu dates with & wasn"t exclusive with) had "active two days ago" on his Tinder profile — this was baông xã in 2014, & the phầm mềm has since changed its features. He hadn"t been active for the three weeks we"d been hanging out, and I was destroyed(ish). I was new at online dating, as well as asking for what I want & dealing with my feelings. If you"re in those early, in-between stages of a relationship, you might be wondering how to lớn see if someone is on Tinder so that you can log on, find they haven"t been active, and confirm that the person you’re chatting up isn’t also swiping left and right at the same time.

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In addition khổng lồ making sure you’re not wasting your time with the person you’re talking khổng lồ or, alternatively, swiping right on inactive profiles, you might be curious about how to find someone on Tinder because you are in a committed long-term relationship and having some suspicions that your partner is straying. A friover of mine recently saw a dating ứng dụng show up on her boyfriend of seven years’ screen when he accidentally swiped over "recently deleted apps."

Regardless of whether you’re invested in this topic because you don’t want to swipe right on ghosted profiles or you just can"t bring yourself to ask your partner what’s going on, here are your best shots at how to find out if someone is on Tinder.

Use Tinder’s Recently Active Feature



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Sorry lớn be such a downer, but the truth is that Tinder doesn"t outright tell you exactly when profiles were last active. “The only way to know if someone you know is on Tinder is if you stumbled across their profile,” a Tinder spokesperson tells Elite Daily.

This is probably for your own good. That torturous feature I mentioned Tinder had way baông chồng in 2014 that told you exactly when a match was last active? That’s long gone. I promise you that had I not been able to "check up" on the person I was already going out on real life dates with, I wouldn"t have been unduly paranoid. Without this paranoia, maybe I would have sầu been a more normal, open date. Now, there"s no way lớn creep on the phầm mềm and find out exactly when someone was last on, except in one case.

Tinder does have a green dot feature that shows you that a user was “Recently Active” on the app — swiping, chatting, refreshing the protệp tin, you name it — in the last 24 hours. If you pay for Tinder Gold và Platinum, you have sầu access to this feature, and you’ll be able to see who in your “Likes You” grid has a green dot.

If you don’t subscribe lớn the paid options, you’ll see the green dot, but the photos in your “Likes You” grid will be blurred. The green dot isn’t something to rely on, though — users have the option lớn turn off their “Recently Active sầu status” in the app’s settings if they “prefer to maintain air of mystery,” according lớn Tinder.

Paying for the premium subscriptions also gives you access lớn Tinder’s “control who you see” curation option in the settings. So, if you want to make sure that you’re not swiping through inactive sầu profiles và wasting your time, you can change the “control who you see” section to lớn “Recently Active sầu.” After that, the algorithm will prioritize showing you those profiles of those who have sầu used the tiện ích recently or are also using Tinder at the moment you are.

Other than that, you won’t be able to lớn discern exactly if someone you know has used the tiện ích recently or when, but you still might have some information lớn go off of.

If You See Them On Tinder, They Are At Least Somewhat Active

Although you won’t be able to tell when someone was last active, other than maybe the past 24 hours, seeing their protệp tin on the app is a pretty good indication that the protệp tin is in use.

A TikTok from Canadian user
trinniiitty, which now has over 2.5 million views, went viral in 20trăng tròn after posting a “PSA” claiming that Tinder only shows users who have sầu been on the app within the last 7 days, period. While Tinder did confirm that it only circulates active sầu profiles, it hasn’t been completely transparent about what the algorithm’s time frame for being "active" actually is — so for now we can only speculate. Long story short, though, if you see a person show up on Tinder’s dechồng of profiles, they are more than likely actively using the phầm mềm.

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So, if you or your frikết thúc see the guy or girl you’ve sầu been going out with or fully committed to on the ứng dụng, it might be time khổng lồ have sầu a little chat. And if they swear that it’s “just an old protệp tin,” know that the evidence straight from Tinder HQ is stacked against them. And rethành viên that it doesn’t hurt to have screenshots when it comes lớn talking about cheating.

"Know that if you ask them, though, chances are good they"ll lie unless you catch them red-handed — and even then, they may lie,” Trina Leckie, breakup coach and host of the breakup BOOST podcast, previously told Elite Daily. “Don’t expect people who are living a lie lớn tell you the truth.”

Check To See If They’ve sầu Updated Their Tinder Profile



If you really want lớn make sure that a profile you or your frikết thúc are seeing on Tinder is being actively used, then the final option is khổng lồ go into lớn full-on, old-fashioned social media stalker sleuthing mode.

To see if someone has been on the phầm mềm recently, you can start off by inspecting the pictures they have sầu on their profile và see if any of them have sầu changed since you last saw them or are recently taken. To be sure, you can cross reference with their other social media.

Another method you can employ is khổng lồ check the distance displayed on their protệp tin from time lớn time. As long as you don’t change your location in your settings, if the distance displayed on their protệp tin changes, it means that they used Tinder recently from another location.

Doing either of these things can definitely feel like an extraordinarily creepy move, but if you have sầu lớn know, you have to know. However, it is important to lớn keep in mind that a confirmed protệp tin update isn’t necessarily a sign that the person is actively looking for someone else khổng lồ date.

If You *Do* Find Them On Tinder, Here’s How To Bring It Up

If you’re using these tips in order khổng lồ make sure you’re not wasting your time with inactive sầu, ghosted profiles, then feel không lấy phí lớn leave now with these in mind và open up Tinder — and best of luck swiping. On the other hand, if you’re concerned that the person you’re seeing (exclusively or not) is still using the phầm mềm while being involved with you, really, the thing to vì chưng is to bring it up in conversation.

The main problem here is that you don’t trust your partner. If you are considering going all out on Tinder stalking, you should also consider asking them point-blank if they are cheating. It"s no fun khổng lồ stay in a relationship where you are constantly worried about being betrayed.

“While it may be painful to hear the truth, you’d rather know,” licensed mental health counselor and founder of Healing with Wisdom Kerri-Anne Brown previously told Elite Daily. “Knowing is what can allow for repair và growth should you decide lớn stay in the relationship và rebuild with your partner. Even if you decide to kết thúc things, you’ll likely feel empowered in making a decision that you felt was best for you and not be in the dark.”

Even if you aren"t in an actual relationship yet, rather than hunting for clues via the rabbit hole that is the internet, where I once confused someone"s Venmo charge with their aunt for a new girlfrikết thúc (not proud), simply acknowledge that you want more from the person you are dating than you are currently getting.

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Either way, you deserve khổng lồ know what the other person’s intentions are. Knowing the truth now will be far less painful than if you wait it out for six more months (months that will inevitably be full of investigation & paranoia). Trust me, I"m speaking from experience.

Experts:

Trimãng cầu Leckie, breakup coach và host of the breakup bOOST podcast

Kerri-Anne Brown, licensed mental health counselor và founder of Healing with Wisdom


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